Trouble adjusting to being a newlywed NAVY wife?

Posted August 30th, 2011 by admin

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  1. Deep Diver

    welcome 2 coronado. Whos going 2 pay for the move if he washes out of BUD/S. Until he graduates u will see very little of him. He was wrong to have you move before graduation, if he makes it. Good luck mam.

  2. mktmonitor

    This marriage is in deep trouble, I don’t even know where to start. You have talked to him and he seems like he will not compromise. I would think of getting a divorce but under no circumstances do you need to bring a child into this world with this guy. Maybe the best thing for you would be to go back to Florida?

  3. AnswerDude

    This has nothing to do with military!

    You are married and the #1 reason for divorce is finances and you two don’t have them in control and are not acting as a married couple when it comes to finances!

    Guys are scared of "marriage counseling" but what I think would help you two is "financial counseling" and you need to get it quick!

    As for your job issue? Substitute Teach! My sister in law moved for her husbands job and she couldn’t find a teaching job so she signed up with multiple school systems in the area and she works every day, actually gets multiple calls a day!

  4. Lateforad8

    Ok, my answer is going to be very different. I believe you save your savings. Unless you are spending on yourself. You may have to take a job, that is not in your field. You may have to take a job, you don’t like. I wouldn’t keep taking care of him, or the house. This is suppose to be a partnership, and their is only one who is contributing to the marriage. He doesn’t seem to care. I wouldn’t buy groceries, I would go out to eat alone, before I slave over a stove all day for someone who doesn’t appreciate it. I would walk my own dog. I would make my life what I want it to be. Whatever that is. You do not sound happy, and you are relying on him to fulfill those desires. He has made it clear, he is only part time in this relationship. It is time for you decide what really would make you happy. Life is too short, and keeps getting shorter the longer we are alive. The dude doesn’t even care if your teeth fall out. So, how can you expect him to really care about you or your desires. I would not entertain the idea of a child, it would only cause more problems. He doesn’t even want to take care of you, more or less even a dog. I would look into the base, and their programs,and try to meet other Navy wife’s. Ask them how or if they have ever dealt with these issues. I’m sure they have support groups on base, and programs. I would look into getting a grant if you are unemployed to go back to school. Florida the sunny state, may be where you find the most happiness. Who knows. However before giving up, give him a dose of his own medicine. Go out an explore California on your own. Meet your own friends, find your own favorite restaurant, find your own favorite park… you get what I’m trying to say. Sometimes, if not ready for a divorce, you have to make yourself happy.

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